Some time ago, I noticed that my son and his friends were beginning to develop problems with alcohol. First of all, I feel like I should point out that John and his friends are respected young men, who are established professionals in their work, and always kind and polite to their neighbors and everyone they meet. I couldn't have hoped for a better son.

However, I cannot help it but be worried about his recent behavior. He recently broke up with his longtime girlfriend, so it was only natural to drown his sorrows, and I didn't stand in his way of doing so. I know this forum might not be the right place to promote this attitude, but I think that young people sometimes need to find a way to relieve stress and having some good times with friends can create memories that will last a lifetime.

As time passed, they started drinking more and more. At one time, I even asked John about it, and he told me that he had to find a way to unwind after a difficult day at work. Eventually, these rough days kept adding up more and more frequently, and it included heavier drinking than ever before.

I don't want to sound like a broken record and confront my son for no reason, but I have to admit that I'm a bit worried now that his issues might become chronic. If that turns out to be true, I will never be able to forgive myself for not reacting sooner.

I guess, what I'm trying to ask here is how to know whether this storm will blow over and when is the right time to push the panic button?